Some notes on Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder (EUPD) and Gregory Bateson’s Double Bind, which I keep in mind when volunteering counselling:
Borderline Personality Disorder, in the briefest terms I can muster without sacrificing accuracy, is an emotional/intimacy disorder that begins when children stop sharing emotional openness and honesty with others. Why do they do this? Because their parents’ behaviors towards them have communicated the message that their feelings are inherently irrelevant and shameful. [Source]
In fact, history of adverse childhood experiences is so common in people diagnosed with BPD that in a study about childhood trauma in cases of BPD, it was found that 81 percent of subjects had childhood abuse in their past — 71 percent reported physical abuse, 68 percent sexual abuse and 62 percent had witnessed severe domestic violence.
When a child grows up in an abusive environment that doesn’t meet his or her normal emotional and physical developmental needs, the child may learn to resort to “crafty” and indirect techniques to get what they need to survive. [Source]
Typically, a demand is imposed upon the subject by someone whom he or she respects (such as a parent, teacher, or doctor) but the demand itself is inherently impossible to fulfill because some broader context forbids it. For example, this situation arises when a person in a position of authority imposes two contradictory conditions but there exists an unspoken rule that one must never question authority. [Source]
Ask any project manager about the key to their success, and they will say that delivering a project is often more like a "dark art" or by chance, than a predictable science.